Why Discipleship is Crucial for Outreach

I sat down recently with Dr. David Fry, Pastor of the Bible Holiness Church in Frankfort, IN.  He graciously shared an hour of his time with me, and we covered a wide range of topics in that hour.

Mentoring for Small church pastors to prevent pastoral burnout www.darrellstetler2.com/coaching

This interview was so valuable on strategies for new believer discipleship and the value of discipling a brand-new Christian.

But here was one of the key moments in the interview, at least for me… when David talked about his philosophy behind discipleship and why it’s so important for outreach.  Watch it here:

Wow… that’s a good word for our churches, isn’t it?

“Pastors should discern quickly and clearly where the people are spiritually… are they spiritual babies or parents? If you’re the only spiritual parents, the last thing you want is 50 more spiritual babies who will die without nourishment.”

“If you enter a room with 25 spiritual infants, the last thing you need is to say ‘Let’s go get 25 more infants so I can take care of you all.”

What do you think?  Do we need to delay outreach until we have spiritual parents?  Where are your people in their discipleship?

MentorMe #1: Chris Cravens Interview

I recently sat down with Chris Cravens.  Chris served as a pastor of the Bible Methodist Church in Findlay, OH for years, and now serves as Conference President of the Heartland Regional Conference of the Bible Methodists.

Chris shared a lot of wisdom in this interview.  I hope it’s a blessing to you!

Chris Cravens on Getting Away with God For Solitude

Clip from My Recent Interview

I recently sat down with Chris Cravens for an interview.  Chris served as the pastor of Findlay Bible Methodist Church, in Findlay, OH for years.  During that time, the church experienced a tremendous turnaround and solid, sustainable growth.

Mentoring for Small church pastors to prevent pastoral burnout www.darrellstetler2.com/coaching

Chris just crackles with passion for God and lost people.

I interviewed him for an hour, covering all kinds of topics, and that interview will be released on my Small Church Pastor coaching program very soon.

But this was a key moment in the interview for me… when he talked about getting away with God for times of solitude and prayer.  Watch it here:

Wow… Mind blown.

To recap:

  1. Each week, you need to retreat for at least one hour of intense fasting, prayer, and solitude with God.
  2. Each month, you need to take a day for the same.
  3. Each year, you need to take 3-4 days… or a week.
  4. Every 7 years, you need to take a month of solitude and prayer.

What do you think?  Is he right?  How can you do that?  If you can’t do it NOW… how can you work toward it?

 

Why Willpower is Hard to Find

5 Minute Mentoring

If you’re like me, you’ve struggled to MAKE yourself do things.  Even things you know will help your situation… they’re still hard.  But don’t despair! 

Increasing your willpower can help avoid pastoral burnout

To that end, here’s a life-altering thing I’m learning right now about my own willpower, captured in this week’s 5-Minute Mentoring Video.

One of my biggest regrets about the early years of my pastoral ministry is that I didn’t invest in a regular, paid coaching program for pastors.  While no one can ever say what “would have happened” I feel pretty confident that I’d be further up the road, my church would be better off, and I’d have skipped over some of the mistakes I’ve made.

If you’re a smaller church pastor, you know that not all coaching is created equal.  Some of it is more fitted for large churches with multiple staff, large budgets… churches that have approximately the same population in their bathroom as your sanctuary!

If you’d like to hear more about it, check out my Small Church Pastor Coaching Membership.  Here’s what’s included:

1. Video Coaching Class

One Unit per month is added, and members have access to the ENTIRE ARCHIVE of past topics.  Current and upcoming topics include:

  • Creating An Outreach Culture
  • Recruiting and Leading Volunteers
  • Small Church Financial Leadership
  • How to Follow Up on Guests
  • Personal Spiritual Growth
  • Lower Your Sunday Stress – Preaching Habits
  • Personal Systems
  • Marriage & Ministry
  • Morning Routines
  • Intentional Leadership

Each Unit includes a 30-60 minute video training, handouts, resources, and links to sermons you can preach on these topics in your own church.

2. Private video messaging group for Q&A!

I use the app Marco Polo for Q&A, and respond as quickly as possible to your further questions on any topic in the archive.

3. Done-For-You Resources

RESOURCES INCLUDE:
* Complete Sermon Resource file – the best from 15 years of messages

* Graphic Design Templates:

  • Outreach Invitation Card
  • Guest Connection Card
  • Church Brochure
  • Plus tips on where to get them printed dirt cheap!

2 ebooks (including early release)

  • 7 Steps to a Killer Guest Follow-Up System
  • Top 9 Tech Tools I’m Using to Get More Done

40 Day Church Prayer and Fasting Campaign

  • Video Messages
  • daily texts
  • Sign up sheets
  • Social Media graphics

* Administrative File (Worship Program Swipe File, Sign-up Sheets)

* ALL 5 Minute Mentoring Videos before they are publicly posted.

(20 topics and counting! Personal time management, leading change, Lowering Sunday Stress, Sharing the Gospel, and many more!)

The Cost

I’m one of those guys who quickly scans what’s included, and goes to the bottom for the cost. 🙂

This $30/mo membership is packed with valuable information that is specifically tailored to the needs of small church pastors. Small Church pastors are incredibly important, but often do not receive the respect they deserve… and too often, they don’t respect themselves enough to invest in their leadership growth!

Invest in your ministry today, and get complete access to the library of small church coaching videos as well as an archive of sermons, documents, administrative helps, hours of recorded videos, and a helpful video messaging private group where you can ask further questions. Find your supportive community for small church pastors today!

My Coaching membership for small church pastors are available here: darrellstetler2.com/pastorcoaching

My Guarantee:

If you don’t think it’s worth it, cancel in the first 14 days, and you’ll get your money back.  Zero risk, No Hassle.

 

Three Main Marketing Pieces for Small Churches

5 Minute Mentoring

Far too many small churches are content with sloppiness in their marketing promotional material… or even it being non-existent!

5 Minute Mentoring & small church pastor coaching from Darrell Stetler

This can be for several reasons:

    • they don’t know what’s available.
    • they don’t have time or ideas for it.
    • they haven’t thought through an outreach strategy.
    • they don’t have the skills or the money to update it.

I’m not saying you have to have everything perfect, but if reaching new people is important to you, then you need to care enough to talk to them with excellence.

I understand that you don’t have a graphic artist on staff at a smaller church, and that you can’t put a professional design on every event.  But don’t let the fact that you can’t do everything, stop you from doing core things well.

Here are 3 reasons small church pastors should do some work on updating your communication pieces:

  1. Updating your marketing pieces helps remove the “cringe factor” from your congregation inviting.

  2. No one yet ever was saved at a church they never heard of.

  3. If you use the right partners, it doesn’t have to be extremely expensive.

Here’s a quick video that shares what I think are the 3 core marketing & communication pieces that you need:

I have a more specific recommendations on printing & design that I share in my Small Church Pastor Coaching membership site.  If you’re interested in more on this, including where to get the best deals on graphic design and printing, check that out!

 

 

 

7 Good Reasons Pastors Should Say NO

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Peter Drucker once said something about like this, “A prerequisite for a career in ministry should be a 6 week intensive course in saying ‘NO.’ Yet no such course exists.”

Can you relate as a pastor?  It’s tough to find the wisdom to know when to say YES and when to say NO.  Often we feel pressure to say yes when:

  • The person asking is a valued leader in the church.
  • The person asking is a new attender.
  • You said YES to something similar in the past.
  • You feel guilty about not “doing enough.”
  • You feel that spirituality is mainly related to activity.

Pastors struggle with all these things, pretty much weekly.

Here’s a quick 5 minute video that will help.  It’s entitled 7 Good Reasons Pastors Should Say NO.

If you’d like a TON more of this kind of content, you need to check this out:

I’ve decided to open up my Small Church Coaching Membership site to any pastor.

Here’s what’s included:

1. Video Coaching Class

One Unit per month is added, and members have access to the ENTIRE ARCHIVE of past topics.  Current and upcoming topics include:

  • Creating An Outreach Culture
  • Recruiting and Leading Volunteers
  • Small Church Financial Leadership
  • How to Follow Up on Guests
  • Personal Spiritual Growth
  • Lower Your Sunday Stress – Preaching Habits
  • Personal Systems
  • Marriage & Ministry
  • Morning Routines
  • Intentional Leadership

Each Unit includes a 30-60 minute video training, handouts, resources, and links to sermons you can preach on these topics in your own church.

2. Private video messaging group for Q&A!

I use the app Marco Polo for Q&A, and respond as quickly as possible to your further questions on any topic in the archive.

3. Done-For-You Resources

RESOURCES INCLUDE:
* Complete Sermon Resource file – the best from 15 years of messages

* Graphic Design Templates:

  • Outreach Invitation Card
  • Guest Connection Card
  • Church Brochure
  • Plus tips on where to get them printed dirt cheap!

2 ebooks (including early release)

  • 7 Steps to a Killer Guest Follow-Up System
  • Top 9 Tech Tools I’m Using to Get More Done

40 Day Church Prayer and Fasting Campaign

  • Video Messages
  • daily texts
  • Sign up sheets
  • Social Media graphics

* Administrative File (Worship Program Swipe File, Sign-up Sheets)

* ALL 5 Minute Mentoring Videos before they are publicly posted.

(20 topics and counting! Personal time management, leading change, Lowering Sunday Stress, Sharing the Gospel, and many more!)

The Cost

I’m one of those guys who quickly scans what’s included, and goes to the bottom for the cost. 🙂

This $30/mo membership is packed with valuable information that is specifically tailored to the needs of small church pastors. Small Church pastors are incredibly important, but often do not receive the respect they deserve… and too often, they don’t respect themselves enough to invest in their leadership growth!

Invest in your ministry today, and get complete access to the library of small church coaching videos as well as an archive of sermons, documents, administrative helps, hours of recorded videos, and a helpful video messaging private group where you can ask further questions. Find your supportive community for small church pastors today!

My Coaching membership for small church pastors are available here: darrellstetler2.com/pastorcoaching

My Guarantee:

If you don’t think it’s worth it, cancel in the first 14 days, and you’ll get your money back.  Zero risk, No Hassle.

If you’re interested, click here to be re-directed to a simple purchase form.

Free Video Pastor Coaching Group

Just an idea I'm testing...

I’ve been silent for quite some time on this blog.  It’s been quite a journey over the last 9 months, a journey mostly covered in sheetrock dust.

My family, with all 7 kids, lived in a 3 bed, 1 full bath parsonage of about 1100 sq. ft. for the last 15 years.  (OK, we didn’t have 7 kids 15 years ago, but…)  Last fall, we bought a 4,300 sq ft home (6 bed, 3 full/2 half bath), and started a remodel process that took us about 6 months to complete.  I’ll tell the whole story sometime… it’s a story full of answered prayers, and God’s amazing faithfulness.  If you want pictures of our very own “fixer-upper,” I would point you toward this video tour I put on Facebook early in April of 2018.

But for now, I’m coming back to the blog.

I’m focusing in for a time on a new idea that I’m testing.  I love

  • pastors
  • local churches
  • coaching
  • providing resources that save time and energy

I want to do a better job sharing things that I’ve learned over the years.  So I’m here today to announce:

Limited Space Free Pastor Coaching Group

This temporary coaching program will:

  • be 1-3 months long (depending on how it goes)
  • be entirely on your own time
  • enable you to ask quick questions & receive 5 minute answers and feedback on issues you care about
  • Use the video messaging app Marco Polo
  • ONLY INVOLVE 15 PASTORS at once.  I’m afraid I can’t handle more than that.

So what kind of issues will I be talking about?  Well, it depends on what questions you ask, but I’m happy to share ideas on:

  • leadership issues
  • administrative tools and techniques
  • outreach
  • work/life balance
  • pastoral emotional health
  • pastoral care
  • preaching
  • habits and systems

 

So, if you want to try it out, here’s how you join up:

  1. Click this link.
  2. Install the MarcoPolo app on your mobile phone.
  3. You might have to come back here and click that link on #1 again… not sure.
  4. Watch the welcome video, then think of a question you’d like some coaching on.

 

I’ll be watching to see how this comes together, and I’ll cut it off after 15 guys join.  I’ll check out your video questions, think it over, and then record a response.

I have no idea how this will work.  🙂 But hey, that’s the joy of trying stuff… just to find out what happens.

Looking forward to chatting with you!

 

 

 

 

5 Minute Mentoring: Leading Change More Effectively

Leading change in a local church is a tough task.  Just about any pastor has one of these stories:

goldfish seeking a change
  • a needed change that crashed and burned after it was presented to a church board…
  • a “church boss” who couldn’t bear to see their pet program canned…
  • a brilliant plan plan shot down by failure to process it properly with key leaders…

An indisputable fact: Change COSTS.  Financially.  Spiritually.  Emotionally.  Chronologically.

So how can we help ourselves know which changes to take on, and help people process them?

Here’s a helpful chart shared with me by my “brother in the Gospel” Darrell Underwood (MS, USAF, Ret.), who pastors a church plant in Clovis, NM called Servant’s Heart Chapel.  From his years of work in Process Improvement for the Air Force.

#3 – PICK Chart: Leading Change More Effectively from Darrell Stetler II on Vimeo.

10 Ways to Be More Creative

Do you think it’s possible to become more creative?  Is creativity natural, or developed?  Is it a limited commodity, and you’re just stuck with however much of it you have?  Is it even possible for a small-church pastor to be creative with limited budgets, no staff, and few options?

I think you CAN become more creative.

What is Creativity?

Here’s my definition of creativity: The skill or ability to view problems and possibilities in new ways, and find solutions that are novel and courageous.

10 Ways You Can Develop your creativity

So how do we develop the skill of creativity?  Here are a few suggestions:

1. Read broadly.

Take some time and check out authors that break boxes, think fresh thoughts, and have an “upside down” way of viewing things.  This will mean reading people who disagree with you politically, who synthesize differently than you are used to.

Try some of these:

2. Strategically break your routine.

Seeing the same things the same ways will eventually result in stifled creativity, because it doesn’t give you new experiences and info to process and synthesize.

  • Eat somewhere new.
  • Take a new road to work.
  • Learn a new skill.
  • Read a book about something different or weird
  • Do a new kind of recreation (If you’re an inside guy, go out. Or vice versa!)
  • Talk with someone outside your normal circle – ask them questions

Identify what is unique and different about these experiences.  You may not like them – you might even decide not to do it again.

3. Think childish.

Kids see ways to solve problems creatively because they haven’t been discouraged yet by how many WRONG answers there are. What if you recaptured that mindset, by deciding to ignore the voice that says there’s only one right answer?

  • Shut down the inner voice that says “that’s stupid.”
  • Deliberately suspend your disbelief.
  • Force yourself to come up with 10 different ways to do something, even if 4 of them are completely ludicrous.

The person who rolls their eyes at an over-the-top suggestion may be RIGHT, but they are not creative.  So don’t be that guy.

This is valuable when you need to do things like come up with creative trunk or treat ideas, or find creative solutions to problems with your discipleship process.

4. Involve others.

Some people are “Yes, and…” people.  Some are “yes, but…” people.  You know who I’m talking about.  When you want to get creative, it is important who you choose to be around you.  The right people will help you break through a creative block.

“It may be that you are not yourself luminous, but that you are a conductor of light. Some people without possessing genius have a remarkable power of stimulating it.” ~ Sherlock Holmes (Hound of the Baskervilles, Sir A. Conan Doyle)

5. Be ready to capture ideas.

Brainstorming is a huge part of the art of creativity.  But you have to have a way to capture those creative ideas.

Don’t let a flash of insight slip by!  Write them down in Evernote, or put them in your Todoist list.  Sketch it on a napkin.  Take pictures with your smartphone.

Side note: I get some of my best ideas from OTHER people. Specifically, I once got an idea that became an incredible discipleship tool at my church. It’s a Bible reading plan for new Christians, and you can download it for free right here: 

The Best Bible reading plan for new Christians

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    I recently created a post about discipleship sermon illustrations… most of which I had saved in Evernote over the course of about 7 years. I have a way to capture ideas… and after doing it for years, I’ve got lots of sermon illustrations, and I can brainstorm more with ChatGPT.

    6. Plan ahead.

    Many creative people like to hate on this one, but trust me… it’s valuable. Don’t wait until the last minute.  Creativity is useless if you don’t have time to execute the idea!

    Time pressure only creates the base layer of creativity.  Going to the next level of great creative ideas requires margin. So start early.

    7. Get enough sleep.

    There is abundant research saying that if you don’t sleep, your life will suffer.  You’ll make less effective decisions, your productivity will drop, and your creativity will suffer.  So make yourself go to sleep.  Check out Michael Hyatt’s post on evening routines for help.

    8. Ask “What if…?” and “Why not?”

    The more you ask these two questions, the more you unleash your creativity.  Even if the answer is “obvious,” go ahead and ask the question.  What you gain from the question is more than the answer – it is perspective.

    9. Use metaphor and simile often.

    If creativity really is the synthesis of ideas, metaphor is a great laboratory.  To practice this, think these kinds of thoughts:

    • “How is this problem LIKE other problems?”
    • “If this situation was a ___ (car, storm, war, family, factory, etc), what would each piece be called?”

    This forces your brain into a synthesis mode of completely different sets of ideas, which is the essence of creativity.

    10. Laugh at yourself.

    Creativity = Ridiculous.
    Ridiculous = funny.
    Funny = people laugh at it.
    People laughing at you = bad.
    THEREFORE, Creativity = bad.

    If that’s your logic, you’ll never grow your creative skill.

    So if you decide that you’re OK with being a little ridiculous, and can develop the ability to laugh at yourself, you’ll be further down the road toward being truly creative.

    In the comments below, share this: Which of these ideas surprised you?  Why?

    Pastor, Here’s Why You Can’t Quit

    If the stats are right, several pastors reading this are burned out and thinking of quitting… or at least wishing it could happen. The old joke about “writing your resignation letter every Monday” has a grain of truth. You’re burned out. Used up. Frustrated. In conflict. Spiritually drained. Unappreciated.

    I don’t know if you’re one of those. I hope not. But odds are, someone reading this said under your breath, “That’s me.”

    For the next few minutes, I’m talking to you.

    For just the next few minutes, you are a boxer. The bell has rung, ending the round — just in time. Literally, saved by the bell. You stagger back to the corner, battered and bleeding. Collapsing onto the stool, you say, “I’m done. I can’t do it. I’ve got to quit.” A quick swipe of the towel, and I’m down in your face. Through clenched teeth, in a low growl, here’s what I’ve got to say:

    “Jesus called you to suffer this.”

    Not all pastors are called to blowout success. I don’t know the “Why of heaven” on this. But you know in your gut it’s true — there are too many godly & gifted men through history who didn’t see big numbers. If you see this as the calling of God to face the attack of the enemy, it makes a difference.

    “This will not last forever.”

    Don’t quit because of a season! You can outlast that critic. Those children will not always be so small. God will answer prayer. Someone will be changed. You will not always feel this alone. Your spouse will not always be sick.

    “This is where you prove your grit.”

    You must — you MUST. Watch this video.

     

    “Jesus is worth this.”

    I know you’re doubting it will ever be any different, and thinking that you have no more strength. But remember your brothers & sisters in Moslem countries. Remember those have lost eyes, hands, jobs… those who have been tied to stakes and flogged.

    They found that Christ was worth the pain.  They found that He satisfies here on Earth, and they proved his supreme worth by what they suffered.  And when we arrive in heaven, whatever pain you’re experiencing will only produce greater glory when you’re in His All-Satisfying Presence.

    “This is the price of Christian leadership.”

    1 Corinthians 4:9 For it seems to me that God has put us apostles on display at the end of the procession, like men condemned to die in the arena. We have been made a spectacle to the whole universe, to angels as well as to men.
    10 We are fools for Christ… We are weak… we are dishonored!
    11 To this very hour we go hungry and thirsty, we are in rags, we are brutally treated, we are homeless.
    12 We work hard with our own hands. When we are cursed, we bless; when we are persecuted, we endure it;
    13 when we are slandered, we answer kindly. Up to this moment we have become the scum of the earth, the refuse of the world. (NIV)

    This is not new!  You think you’re better than Paul?  Or Stephen?  Or Jesus?

    Get your head up. No, look up here. Look me in the eye.

    Grit your teeth and say it: I will not quit.

    No, don’t you mumble and drop your eyes. LOOK AT ME.

    Say it.

    SAY IT.

    I WILL NOT QUIT.

    I. WILL. NOT. QUIT.

    Now, call a preacher friend or mentor and tell them you’re not going to quit. Email me and tell me you need prayer, but you’re not going to quit. I will stop and pray for you as soon as I get the email. We are in this thing together. We need you. No more men running for the safety of the rear lines while the shells of the enemy scream overhead!

    Now, type I WILL NOT QUIT in the Comments below.

    Then, go read this post about action steps you can take if you’re burned out and discouraged as a pastor!